Why the relationship between a father and son is so special

A father is a key figure in the growth of any man. He was there when you rode your first bike, when you broke up with your first girlfriend and through other torrid times. Our fathers might be strict, they might be old fashioned and might not always be the best listeners, but they sure as hell are our first heroes.

From the day we are born he is our very own superman, no he doesn’t wear a cape- but more often than not he wears a suit and works himself to the bone to provide for you. In our little eyes he could do anything and fix anything from our toys to our mistakes. Though fathers are far from invincible they never let us see it, shielding us from their troubles. Sure they might miss out on a few cricket matches, school award ceremonies and other functions, but they are thinking about their children the whole time, while stuck at work.

Some of us let our relationships with our fathers sour with time, the reasons for this vary, perhaps it was because they didn’t spend enough time with us growing up, or because they didn’t support our career choices. We often come back from those problems, but very often pride gets in the way. Don’t wait for it to be too late, go bury the hatchet, because in life you’ll have many friends, girlfriends and jobs but you’ll only have one father.

One day, you’ll have your own child, and that day you’ll truly understand your father and the pressures he faced. You’ll make mistakes but just remember all father’s do and it’s never too late to do better. Our fathers taught us how to navigate the world and we will do the same for our children. A father is truly an unsung hero.

Happy Father’s Day

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An historic judgement for men! Male students can now file sexual harassment cases

In what is definitely welcomed news, the University Grants Commission (UGC) launched new regulations which allow male students to file cases of sexual harassment against men, women and transgender people.

The UGC recently told higher education institutes ‘act decisively against all gender based violence perpetrated against employees and students of all sexes recognising that primarily women employees and students and some male students and students of the third gender are vulnerable to many forms of sexual harassment and humiliation and exploitation’. Delving further into some of the intricate details of the regulation reveals the procedure to file complaints, here are some of the finer points –

  • The victim must file a complaint with the internal complaints committee (of their university) within 3 months of the incident, notwithstanding any major illness which prevented them from doing so
  • Alternately a third party can also file a complaint for the victim. This can be a family member, friend, colleague, classmate or any other associate. They can file the complaint if the victim is unable to do so due to “physical or mental incapacity or death”
  • The internal complaints committee must complete their investigation within 90 days and authorities must take action 30 days after receiving this report.
  • If found guilty a student will be expelled and teachers will be liable and processed according to service rules.

Now I know what you’re thinking shouldn’t this law have always been there? Well sadly the matter of men getting sexually harassed has been long overlooked, due to a number of reasons including the fact that people assume men don’t get harassed sexually. This is partly because men mostly don’t file complaints for sexual harassment out of fear of being ridiculed by society (Because apparently it’s not manly to be sexually assaulted). This law will hopefully serve as a stepping stone for removing the stigma around the issue.

 

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6 kinds of footwear every man needs

Being picky about your footwear used to be considered ‘unmanly’, but in recent years with minds being a bit more open and metro sexuality being welcomed shoes have become a man’s appearance signature. With appropriate footwear now being a norm, selection of appropriate footwear for every occasion has become a headache that all men must deal with. To make this task easier, we bring you the Indian Mans Den’s list of footwear every man needs:

  1. Casual Sneakers

The casual sneaker has become the sort of shoe that can be worn on almost all occasion (If the shoe is maintained well). The right pair of sneakers can go a long way in diversifying your wardrobe. (Pro tip – White sneakers will go with pretty much anything). Grab an amazing pair and make sure to treat them like the piece of art they are.

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  1. Gym Sneakers

In recent years, people have made the mistake of using their casual sneakers as gym sneakers. That is a big no no. Your gym sneakers don’t need to be Adidas or Nike, even local brands will do the job as long as they provide the stability needed to maintain ones balance during a good lift. (Pro tip- Don’t buy a pair that you need to break in, a gym sneaker should be comfortable off the bat)

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  1. Loafers

Whatever you believe of their origins (Let’s face it there are a lot of theories) loafers have picked up steam in the fashion world, while dividing camps on their ‘formality’. Whatever the case the loafer is a great shoe for everyday wear. Not to mention it is a great look for a brunch or lunch date. When selecting a loafer please ensure it’s one built of good quality leather and ensure to maintain it (Since you won’t be wearing socks).

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  1. Boots

Boots aren’t just the style of cowboys and hikers anymore! Boots have become highly versatile in their usage. Whether you’re a chukka guy or a Chelsea guy (like me) owning a pair is a must. Boots are great for winter use, pair them with black track pants or blue jeans for the beat results and throw on a black leather jacket for an ensemble that will leave the ladies staring.

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  1. Dress Shoes

While I know the term ‘Dress Shoes’ is very broad, for the purpose of this article they mean only one thing – Oxfords! Not Brogues, not wingtips, just classic oxfords. No self-respecting working man can meander through life without a solid pair of oxfords. No matter how good your suit, a bad pair of formal shoes will immediately make you look like an uncultured buffoon. Spend big on this one lads, one good pair will give you a lot of mileage.

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  1. Flip Flops

Who doesn’t want to liberate their feet! This one is a hit among the Indian youth. So much better looking than the ugly sandles we all wore growing up, a nice pair of flip flops is a sure hit for a casual day of hanging with the boys at the café. However, one major error that people make is wearing flip flops out and about on formal occasions – It is NOT even remotely formal.

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What did you think of our list? Let us know in the comments section