Infertility a term that is often considered taboo by men, the mere thought of it gives Indian men a cold sweat. This has led to this issue being swept under the rug more often than not, but despite it being hidden from common knowledge, it is very much an epidemic that is on the rise. A study by AIIMS, the All India Institute of Medical Sciences found that the average sperm count among Indian men has fallen from 60mn to 20mn of semen over the last three decades! In fact while it is commonly believed that infertility is the woman’s fault, in nearly 30% of all infertility cases, the cause is a problem in the male.
It is indeed alarming how much infertility among men has increased in the last few decades, so what are the causes?
- Smoking & drinking
- Pesticide exposure
- Wearing tight pants
- Keeping laptop on your lap
These are just some of the causes for more information on the subject you can visit any of the links cited at the end of the article.
So given that infertility is quite common among men and can be caused by common aspects of our daily lives, we must ask the question, why is no one talking about it? While publications have spoken about it quiet often in recent years, men themselves keep hush on the subject. Part of this is due to society associating men’s status to fertility, this is not even an aspect of modern life but rather something that has been instilled since ancient times. It is a man’s duty to have an heir and to satisfy his wife in the sack, an inability to do that will lead to an end of his line and shame in the eyes of his friends and family. This needs to change with it becoming an increasingly common problem, men need to start opening up about these issues and they require their wives, and loved ones to support them through these difficult times. The other aspect is men themselves! Men put a lot of their self worth into their penises, they worry about every aspect of it, length, girth, look, etc. To be unable to produce healthy semen kills the make ego completely.
Most male infertility is frequently seen by society as arising from sexual dysfunction and is thus associated with higher levels of stigma than female infertility. In fact a study by Dr. Rheta Keylor of the Massachusetts Institute for Psychoanalysis stated that, male infertility is an “assault on a man’s sense of self revives feelings of competition, castration, and experiences of developmental trauma.”
Given these issues and that fact that male infertility is rising, it is important for men to start talking about this problem and seeking treatment for it. It’s time we stopped associating our penises with masculinity and instead start respecting the courage it takes for a man to talk about facing infertility freely.
Growing up we all used to watch Axe deodorant ads on television. The premise of these ads was always the same, man sprays Axe, man sees woman, woman literally tries to rip his clothes off! If there was ever a reason to wear deodorant it was this. Now I used Axe for many years growing up and never had this happen to me. Suffice to say I was rather hurt. So are deodorant brands just really good at advertising or is smelling good really the way to a woman’s heart and perhaps her pants or is the truth somewhere in the middle?
Firstly, what we need to understand is that women and men at first glance notice different things in the opposite sex, for men it is the body shape of a woman/her looks (No prizes for guessing that) but for women they make their first impression of you based on the way you smell. A number of studies have shown that women are able to detect the biological compatibility of a man simply from signals in their smell.
How does this work? There are a number of theories on this. One of the major ones is that the pheromones in our sweat communicate interest with potential mates subconsciously. One test concluded that women could even smell sexual arousal in a man’s sweat. Disgusting? Yes, but it does prove that when you’re desperate to get laid women can subconsciously notice it in your sweat.
At the end of the day all said and done, smell is not going to be everything. It will however ensure that you get noticed by a girl and while some theories as mentioned above have said that women can smell how compatible they are with you (subconsciously), I feel based on asking a number of women that it is a combination of things, with smell being just as important as personality, style and grooming. What we conclude from all this is that women’s noses could very well be a deciding factor in the complex game called dating. So boys next time you go out don’t forget to shower and throw on a dab of aftershave! You can thank me later.
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They say a dog is a man’s best friend but trust me when I tell you that’s not true. Man’s true best friend is his penis! From the day a man is born he is obsessed with it. But unfortunately a lot of men don’t trust in their penis, due to insecurities about size. These insecurities come from a number of places, talking to friends who lie about their size (We all have that bull shitter friend), google and of course good old porn. In fact according to a study conducted by Kings College of London, 30 percent of men reported dissatisfaction with their genitals. While these numbers are global, a quick search on Google trends showed me that a lot of Indians were indeed searching about penis sizes
As you can see in the graph above the number of searches for penis were pretty consistent across 2015. Showing that this is truly something Indians are searching about. According to various studies conducted the average penis length across the world is 5.5 inches or about 13.9 centimeters. In fact those large penises you see in porn movies they only account for about 3% of the population. So yes porn has been lying to you all this time, not only about how well endowed you should be but also about how much pizza delivery guys get laid! So do Indian men have anything to be concerned about? Well I have good news and bad news in that regard.
The bad news first, the average Indian penis size is below the global average at 4 inches. Some other studies have put it in the range of 4.5 and 4.9 inches in length and around 4.3 inches in circumference. But anyway you cut it we are below the global average. The point is you probably aren’t going to be asked to be the lead in a porno anytime soon. However, before you decide to get depressed and curse everyone in your gene pool, there is some good news:
It doesn’t matter, penis size really doesn’t matter all that much! A new study suggests that 85% of heterosexual women are happy with their partner’s penis size. That is a pretty decent number, furthermore the study found that more than 40 percent of complaints about a partners’ penis size on Google searches was that it was too big, not too small. Big penises apparently are just good to look at and don’t make much of a difference in the sack.
So next time you are feeling anxious just remember that the old adage is true “It’s not the size that matters, it’s what you do with it”. Just remember why the lady is with you and not with any other man, it’s your personality, she didn’t start of seeing your penis anyway.
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