Infertility a term that is often considered taboo by men, the mere thought of it gives Indian men a cold sweat. This has led to this issue being swept under the rug more often than not, but despite it being hidden from common knowledge, it is very much an epidemic that is on the rise. A study by AIIMS, the All India Institute of Medical Sciences found that the average sperm count among Indian men has fallen from 60mn to 20mn of semen over the last three decades! In fact while it is commonly believed that infertility is the woman’s fault, in nearly 30% of all infertility cases, the cause is a problem in the male.
It is indeed alarming how much infertility among men has increased in the last few decades, so what are the causes?
- Smoking & drinking
- Pesticide exposure
- Wearing tight pants
- Keeping laptop on your lap
These are just some of the causes for more information on the subject you can visit any of the links cited at the end of the article.
So given that infertility is quite common among men and can be caused by common aspects of our daily lives, we must ask the question, why is no one talking about it? While publications have spoken about it quiet often in recent years, men themselves keep hush on the subject. Part of this is due to society associating men’s status to fertility, this is not even an aspect of modern life but rather something that has been instilled since ancient times. It is a man’s duty to have an heir and to satisfy his wife in the sack, an inability to do that will lead to an end of his line and shame in the eyes of his friends and family. This needs to change with it becoming an increasingly common problem, men need to start opening up about these issues and they require their wives, and loved ones to support them through these difficult times. The other aspect is men themselves! Men put a lot of their self worth into their penises, they worry about every aspect of it, length, girth, look, etc. To be unable to produce healthy semen kills the make ego completely.
Most male infertility is frequently seen by society as arising from sexual dysfunction and is thus associated with higher levels of stigma than female infertility. In fact a study by Dr. Rheta Keylor of the Massachusetts Institute for Psychoanalysis stated that, male infertility is an “assault on a man’s sense of self revives feelings of competition, castration, and experiences of developmental trauma.”
Given these issues and that fact that male infertility is rising, it is important for men to start talking about this problem and seeking treatment for it. It’s time we stopped associating our penises with masculinity and instead start respecting the courage it takes for a man to talk about facing infertility freely.
Hyderabad boy, Rohit Khandelwal has made history by becoming the first ever Indian to win the prestigious Mr World title. He defeated 46 other contestants to win the 12 day competition held in Southport, UK.
Rohit had the following to say about his amazing achievement “I still can’t believe that I have won the Mr World title. Being the first Indian ever to win this title internationally makes me immensely proud and ecstatic. It’s a dream come true and am very thankful to the Miss India Organization for giving me this opportunity and guiding me throughout my exciting journey. My family, friends and my fans have been a constant support for me and this wouldn’t have been possible without the support of my well-wishers,”. Rohit who resides in Mumbai is passionate about acting and has starred in a number of Hindi shows such as Yeh Hai Aashiqui and Pyaar Tune Kya Kiya.
Rohit has proved that Indians have the ability and enthusiasm to achieve anything we want. Moreover he has proven that true grit and passion can take a man anywhere. We wish Rohit all the best for the future and hope he continues to make India proud in his future endeavors.
It may come as a surprise to a lot of women but guys have problems too! This hilarious video shines a light on the misconceptions and biased against men’s ‘Awkward’ issues (These awkward issues including everything from morning wood to thinning hair). Though quiet enjoyable to watch this video does show one thing that is quiet sad, the depiction of a guy crying gets a lot of ridicule from the girls, with one girl even saying “Come on go deal with it, You are the men”. In an age where we want men to embrace their emotional side, those kind of views are probably not the greatest, though one girl does give an interesting idea to bridge the cap in an understanding between men and women’s issues, she suggests “I think there should be a meeting where we guys and girls can get drunk and discuss”, I for one second that idea! Check out the video below and tell us what you think in the comments section below
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A father is a key figure in the growth of any man. He was there when you rode your first bike, when you broke up with your first girlfriend and through other torrid times. Our fathers might be strict, they might be old fashioned and might not always be the best listeners, but they sure as hell are our first heroes.
From the day we are born he is our very own superman, no he doesn’t wear a cape- but more often than not he wears a suit and works himself to the bone to provide for you. In our little eyes he could do anything and fix anything from our toys to our mistakes. Though fathers are far from invincible they never let us see it, shielding us from their troubles. Sure they might miss out on a few cricket matches, school award ceremonies and other functions, but they are thinking about their children the whole time, while stuck at work.
Some of us let our relationships with our fathers sour with time, the reasons for this vary, perhaps it was because they didn’t spend enough time with us growing up, or because they didn’t support our career choices. We often come back from those problems, but very often pride gets in the way. Don’t wait for it to be too late, go bury the hatchet, because in life you’ll have many friends, girlfriends and jobs but you’ll only have one father.
One day, you’ll have your own child, and that day you’ll truly understand your father and the pressures he faced. You’ll make mistakes but just remember all father’s do and it’s never too late to do better. Our fathers taught us how to navigate the world and we will do the same for our children. A father is truly an unsung hero.
Happy Father’s Day
In what is definitely welcomed news, the University Grants Commission (UGC) launched new regulations which allow male students to file cases of sexual harassment against men, women and transgender people.
The UGC recently told higher education institutes ‘act decisively against all gender based violence perpetrated against employees and students of all sexes recognising that primarily women employees and students and some male students and students of the third gender are vulnerable to many forms of sexual harassment and humiliation and exploitation’. Delving further into some of the intricate details of the regulation reveals the procedure to file complaints, here are some of the finer points –
- The victim must file a complaint with the internal complaints committee (of their university) within 3 months of the incident, notwithstanding any major illness which prevented them from doing so
- Alternately a third party can also file a complaint for the victim. This can be a family member, friend, colleague, classmate or any other associate. They can file the complaint if the victim is unable to do so due to “physical or mental incapacity or death”
- The internal complaints committee must complete their investigation within 90 days and authorities must take action 30 days after receiving this report.
- If found guilty a student will be expelled and teachers will be liable and processed according to service rules.
Now I know what you’re thinking shouldn’t this law have always been there? Well sadly the matter of men getting sexually harassed has been long overlooked, due to a number of reasons including the fact that people assume men don’t get harassed sexually. This is partly because men mostly don’t file complaints for sexual harassment out of fear of being ridiculed by society (Because apparently it’s not manly to be sexually assaulted). This law will hopefully serve as a stepping stone for removing the stigma around the issue.
“If you believe men and women should have equal rights that makes you a feminist. That’s it. There’s nothing else.” – Tanmay Bhat
In a video that has gone viral, Tanmay Bhat of AIB fame, rants about feminism or rather how it is being perceived in the public domain. For the most part he makes some great points including his definition of feminism – Any person who believes in equal rights for both genders is a feminist. I couldn’t agree more. According to me, this rant by Mr Bhat, was directed towards women more than men. It was focused on taking the focus of feminism away from the more extreme faction of self – proclaimed feminists or ‘Feminazis’ as they are popularly known and to instead realize that we all want the same thing – equality.
I really enjoyed this video and don’t think that any man should be offended by this. He puts forward a very basic and correct hypothesis. So more power to you Tanmay! Keep fighting the good fight for gender equality and we’ll do the same.
So what did you think? Do you agree with Tanmay Bhat? Disagree? Or Agree on just some points? Let us know in the comments below
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“Gender equality is not a zero sum game, it is a win- win situation.” This statement makes so much sense yet so few people realize it. I have recently been asked by a lot of people, why men should want gender equality. It seems like a relatively simple question and my answer is also equally simple “Because it’s right”. Why should women or men be considered lesser than each other? Ethically that is a great answer but it’s not a very deeply thought out one. So, In my search for a better answer I stumbled across the below video, which provides a much better and more rational answer.
That answer being – It is good for men. This video explains how countries and companies with the highest gender equality ratings have the highest happiness rating too. It further suggests that gender equality can get men more leisure time, family time and yes even sex. Check out the video and let us know what you think in the comments below
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Every story has two sides, admittedly in India there are a number of crimes against women. But does that mean that every man accused of a crime against a woman should be considered guilty just because he’s being accused of a crime by a woman? What happened to the norm of “Innocent until proven guilty”?
In recent years the nation and the law have rallied to protect women and that is a great step forward, but should protecting one sex mean berating and reducing the rights of the other? Women need to understand that while the law is there to protect them, cheapening it by using it to exploit or get back at men is only going to build mistrust between the genders. Remember crime has no gender and nor do the victims.
Check out the below video and tell us what you think? Does it worry you? If so, what can we do to make the law and society safer and fairer for both men and women?
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Feminism in India has picked up a lot of momentum in the last few years which could have been a good thing. Except unfortunately, with many women it has taken the wrong form, male bashing. Male bashing is basically sexism against men and blaming men for everything that is wrong from global warming to their cars breaking down. It does nothing for gender relations as it leads to constant discontent between the two. While I do believe feminism in its purest form is a good thing (it believes in equality of genders) I find it painful to deal with extremist feminists or Feminazis as they are called. Don’t hate on either gender! Jesting and making fun of each other is all good but both sides often take it too far.
While I doubt this mindset will change anytime soon, this video I stumbled upon shows some honest/funny reactions of men hearing some very strong anti-male quotes. Which will give you a good laugh. Hopefully women will see the funny side to this video too.
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