Infertility – The behind the doors epidemic facing Men in India

Infertility a term that is often considered taboo by men, the mere thought of it gives Indian men a cold sweat. This has led to this issue being swept under the rug more often than not, but despite it being hidden from common knowledge, it is very much an epidemic that is on the rise. A study by AIIMS, the All India Institute of Medical Sciences found that the average sperm count among Indian men has fallen from 60mn to 20mn of semen over the last three decades! In fact  while it is commonly believed that infertility is the woman’s fault, in nearly 30% of all infertility cases, the cause is a problem in the male.

It is indeed alarming how much infertility among men has increased in the last few decades, so what are the causes?

  • Smoking & drinking
  • Stress
  • Disease
  • Pesticide exposure
  • Wearing tight pants
  • Keeping laptop on your lap

These are just some of the causes for more information on the subject you can visit any of the links cited at the end of the article.

So given that infertility is quite common among men and can be caused by common aspects of our daily lives, we must ask the question, why is no one talking about it? While publications have spoken about it quiet often in recent years, men themselves keep hush on the subject. Part of this is due to society associating men’s status to fertility, this is not even an aspect of modern life but rather something that has been instilled since ancient times. It is a man’s duty to have an heir and to satisfy his wife in the sack, an inability to do that will lead to an end of his line and shame in the eyes of his friends and family. This needs to change with it becoming an increasingly common problem, men need to start opening up about these issues and they require their wives, and loved ones to support them through these difficult times. The other aspect is men themselves! Men put a lot of their self worth into their penises, they worry about every aspect of it, length, girth, look, etc. To be unable to produce healthy semen kills the make ego completely.

Most male infertility is frequently seen by society as arising from sexual dysfunction and is thus associated with higher levels of stigma than female infertility. In fact a study by Dr. Rheta Keylor of the Massachusetts Institute for Psychoanalysis stated that, male infertility is an “assault on a man’s sense of self revives feelings of competition, castration, and experiences of developmental trauma.”

Given these issues and that fact that male infertility is rising, it is important for men to start talking about this problem and seeking treatment for it. It’s time we stopped associating our penises with masculinity and instead start respecting the courage it takes for a man to talk about facing infertility freely.

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Ever wondered what girls think of AWKWARD guy problems? Find out

It may come as a surprise to a lot of women but guys have problems too! This hilarious video shines a light on the misconceptions and biased against men’s ‘Awkward’ issues (These awkward issues including everything from morning wood to thinning hair). Though quiet enjoyable to watch this video does show one thing that is quiet sad, the depiction of a guy crying gets a lot of ridicule from the girls, with one girl even saying “Come on go deal with it, You are the men”. In an age where we want men to embrace their emotional side, those kind of views are probably not the greatest, though one girl does give an interesting idea to bridge the cap in an understanding between men and women’s issues, she suggests “I think there should be a meeting where we guys and girls can get drunk and discuss”, I for one second that idea! Check out the video below and tell us what you think in the comments section below

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The Tanmay Bhat Rant on Feminism – An Indian Man’s Take

“If you believe men and women should have equal rights that makes you a feminist. That’s it. There’s nothing else.” – Tanmay Bhat

In a video that has gone viral, Tanmay Bhat of AIB fame, rants about feminism or rather how it is being perceived in the public domain. For the most part he makes some great points including his definition of feminism – Any person who believes in equal rights for both genders is a feminist. I couldn’t agree more. According to me, this rant by Mr Bhat, was directed towards women more than men. It was focused on taking the focus of feminism away from the more extreme faction of self – proclaimed feminists or ‘Feminazis’ as they are popularly known and to instead realize that we all want the same thing – equality.

I really enjoyed this video and don’t think that any man should be offended by this. He puts forward a very basic and correct hypothesis. So more power to you Tanmay! Keep fighting the good fight for gender equality and we’ll do the same.

 

So what did you think? Do you agree with Tanmay Bhat? Disagree? Or Agree on just some points? Let us know in the comments below

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This video shows you the 8 types of Indian girls you meet on Tinder

Tinder is India is interesting to say the least. If you’re a man who uses Tinder in India then you probably have your fair share of horror stories. The below video explores some of the kinds of women you encounter on Tinder in India and I can personally vouch for the fact that most of these stereotypes are pretty accurate. Check it out and let us know if you think this video is on track or if it is missing any type of girl you’ve met on Tinder?

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What every man can learn from Leonardo DiCaprio

Yessssss! Leo Freaking won an Oscar! To honor the situation I wanted to highlight some things every Indian man can learn from this absolute legend. While I’m sure there are a lot I want to focus on just four (No that’s not because I’m too lazy to right more)

 

  1. It’s not where you come from that matters: Before Leo became a teen heartthrob, he was the son of parents who divorced when he was at the tender age of 1. After his parents split, Leo stayed with his mother who worked several jobs to put food on the table for him. A few years later this same dude was making millions so next time someone tells you they can’t make it because they grew up poor, tell them to man up.

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  1. It’s not always about the money, sometimes you got to do things you love: Despite being one of the most successful movie stars on the planet, Leonardo in his post Titantic career has never focused on doing roles that are populist but rather he did roles that he is passionate about. I mean the guy turned down playing Anakin Skywalker in Star Wars! In an Interview shortly after Titantic he was quoted as saying “I’ll never reach that state of popularity again, and I don’t expect to. It’s not something I’m going to try to achieve either.”

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  1. It’s important to have some fun in life: Leo is never one to shy away from a good time, whether he is vaping at an award show or at the beach with a bunch of super models, he knows how to get loose. Also before we forget to mention it, didn’t he just have a fling with Rihanna? Ah Leo keep being the Lad king you are

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  1. Never give up, your dream will come true eventually: It took six nominations for Leo to realize his dream of winning an Academy award. He came close on many occasions, such as his role in the much acclaimed Blood Diamond or who his Bro-some (Bro+Awesome) portrayal of the disgraced stock broker Jordan Belford. Despite the whole internet on many occasions doubting it would ever happen, he finally overcame and proved that with dedication your dreams can come true!

 

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Is the secret to attracting women in their nose? Science says yes

Growing up we all used to watch Axe deodorant ads on television. The premise of these ads was always the same, man sprays Axe, man sees woman, woman literally tries to rip his clothes off! If there was ever a reason to wear deodorant it was this. Now I used Axe for many years growing up and never had this happen to me. Suffice to say I was rather hurt. So are deodorant brands just really good at advertising or is smelling good really the way to a woman’s heart and perhaps her pants or is the truth somewhere in the middle?

Firstly, what we need to understand is that women and men at first glance notice different things in the opposite sex, for men it is the body shape of a woman/her looks (No prizes for guessing that) but for women they make their first impression of you based on the way you smell. A number of studies have shown that women are able to detect the biological compatibility of a man simply from signals in their smell.

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How does this work? There are a number of theories on this. One of the major ones is that the pheromones in our sweat communicate interest with potential mates subconsciously. One test concluded that women could even smell sexual arousal in a man’s sweat. Disgusting? Yes, but it does prove that when you’re desperate to get laid women can subconsciously notice it in your sweat.

At the end of the day all said and done, smell is not going to be everything. It will however ensure that you get noticed by a girl and while some theories as mentioned above have said that women can smell how compatible they are with you (subconsciously), I feel based on asking a number of women that it is a combination of things, with smell being just as important as personality, style and grooming. What we conclude from all this is that women’s noses could very well be a deciding factor in the complex game called dating. So boys next time you go out don’t forget to shower and throw on a dab of aftershave! You can thank me later.

 

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9 things every man goes through when he has a crush

  1. You constantly talk about them

If your friends didn’t find you annoying earlier, they certainly do now because she is your favorite topic. You tell your friends about your conversations, messages and her every interest (Painting, dancing, Big Boss, etc.)

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  1. You watch over them from a distance

Suddenly you find yourself protective about a person you barely know. You make sure you gaze at her from a distance, watching her laugh and making sure she is safe. Some people call that stalking but hey totally different when you do it…..

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  1. You get insanely jealous when she talks about another guy

If you think getting hit in the head with a hammer hurts, try sitting there while the girl you have a crush on talks about how some other guys is just the sweetest. I guarantee, it’s probably the worst form of torture.

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  1. Daydreaming about her becomes your favorite pass time

Your hobbies, work, and social life all go to hell, due to the fact that you are busy lying in bed day dreaming about how splendid life will be once she is with you.

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  1. Grooming suddenly becomes a priority

The beard your mother has wanted you to shave for months, the bath your roommates have been begging you to have. They all magically become number one on your to do list, when even the slightest possibility of meeting her arises.

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  1. Her Facebook and Instagram become daily hubs

You’re the first person to see her status updates, the first to gush at her new profile picture and start the day with a daily ritual of visiting her social media accounts to ensure that her relationship status hasn’t changed.

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  1. You get really nervous around them

Words become impossible to formulate, common sense becomes uncommon. Basically you get dumber than you have ever been and probably constantly embarrass yourself, but don’t worry women find that cute.. sometimes!

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  1. …did I mention really clumsy

You can sum this one up once again to the lack of support from your brain.

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  1. You either make a move or you move on

Eventually you feel those emotions pass, you realize that what you had for her was momentary and while she is amazing she isn’t the one for you OR you weeks turn to months and you realize that you perhaps that feeling is turning into more than a crush. If that happens don’t overthink it, Just make your move!

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Are Indian penises big? How do Indian men size up against the world?

They say a dog is a man’s best friend but trust me when I tell you that’s not true. Man’s true best friend is his penis! From the day a man is born he is obsessed with it. But unfortunately a lot of men don’t trust in their penis, due to insecurities about size. These insecurities come from a number of places, talking to friends who lie about their size (We all have that bull shitter friend), google and of course good old porn. In fact according to a study conducted by Kings College of London, 30 percent of men reported dissatisfaction with their genitals. While these numbers are global, a quick search on Google trends showed me that a lot of Indians were indeed searching about penis sizes

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As you can see in the graph above the number of searches for penis were pretty consistent across 2015. Showing that this is truly something Indians are searching about. According to various studies conducted the average penis length across the world is 5.5 inches or about 13.9 centimeters. In fact those large penises you see in porn movies they only account for about 3% of the population. So yes porn has been lying to you all this time, not only about how well endowed you should be but also about how much pizza delivery guys get laid! So do Indian men have anything to be concerned about? Well I have good news and bad news in that regard.

The bad news first, the average Indian penis size is below the global average at 4 inches. Some other studies have put it in the range of 4.5 and 4.9 inches in length and around 4.3 inches in circumference. But anyway you cut it we are below the global average. The point is you probably aren’t going to be asked to be the lead in a porno anytime soon. However, before you decide to get depressed and curse everyone in your gene pool, there is some good news:

It doesn’t matter, penis size really doesn’t matter all that much! A new study suggests that 85% of heterosexual women are happy with their partner’s penis size. That is a pretty decent number, furthermore the study found that more than 40 percent of complaints about a partners’ penis size on Google searches was that it was too big, not too small. Big penises apparently are just good to look at and don’t make much of a difference in the sack.

So next time you are feeling anxious just remember that the old adage is true “It’s not the size that matters, it’s what you do with it”. Just remember why the lady is with you and not with any other man, it’s your personality, she didn’t start of seeing your penis anyway.
Sources:
http://rhrealitycheck.org/article/2015/02/04/easing-penis-anxiety-age-bing-google/
http://www.livescience.com/40192-penis-shame-guys-heads.html
https://lovematters.in/en/news/indian-penis-size-inside-story
http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2015/mar/03/the-results-are-in-study-reveals-average-penis-size
Want to know which country has the biggest penises in the world?
http://www.askmen.com/dating/vanessa/vanessa4.html
http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/271647.php

How to create an awesome Tinder profile

Lonely on a Friday night? That’s fine because love might just be a few clicks away! For the uninitiated Tinder is a Geo based dating app, that uses a unique algorithm to put a number of members of the opposite sex as options in front of you, giving you the option to either choose to want to talk to a person (By swiping Right) or choose not to talk to them (By swiping Left). For two people to match both have to swipe right. While internationally it’s being used as a hook up app. In India it has taken on the form of a dating app.
Now that we have the basics down, let’s discuss how to build a good profile. Why you ask? Now I know you think you’re the second coming of Salman Khan and any girl would be lucky to match with you. The problem is so do all the other guys! So how do you stand out among thousands of guys, when you have just a first seconds to make an impression?

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Follow these simple tried and tested methods to increase your chances of getting a match by optimizing your profile:
A) Profile photo (First photo): According to a study by OKCupid, women respond to five key elements:
Women respond to five key elements in men’s photos on dating apps/sites:

1. Mystery (looking away from camera)

2. Prosocial behavior (Seem to be doing something socially positive, like helping a child)

3. Preoccupation with something else (Don’t seem to be posing, a photo of you doing something)

4. Preselection by other women (Photos with other women)

5. Hotness (facial hair, hairstyle, clothes, posture, physique, etc.)
Furthermore, remember a few more things for your picture. Ensure that your image is not out of focus, no one likes a blurry image. Don’t let your first image be a group photo! If she can’t figure out who you are, she can’t be attracted to you. Lastly Suits attract women, Barney Stinson knew his shit.

B) The rest of your images + Instagram: Tinder gives you 5 images, MAKE USE OF ALL OF THEM. It adds credibility even if they aren’t great pictures, it proves that you aren’t some kind of weirdo or that you aren’t a fake profile. To further make yourself look legit connect your Instagram account, trust me it will help you significantly. The major fear for women on Tinder is that you are going to be a creep so adding credibility is very important.

C) Your Bio: I can’t emphasis enough the importance of a good bio. It’s the difference between a girl thinking you’re Mika Singh and her thinking you’re Shah Rukh Khan. On Tinder you are trying to ‘market’ yourself, it’s as simple as that and as with the current trend in the marketing world- Content is King. That means that you have 500 words to mold a women’s perspective of you. To get the best out of it, try the following:

1. Be honest: Don’t lie about being a millionaire or having a penis the size of a cricket bat, women aren’t dumb, they might act that way sometime but they aren’t. So just be yourself.
2. Be Funny: I’m not a very good looking man, in fact the only woman who has accused me of being one is my mother, because she kind of has to but I do have about 96 Tinder matches as of writing this article. That’s a pretty decent number, they key is to make a girl laugh with your bio. If she is laughing she will definitely want to talk to you. As the old Hindi dialogue goes “Hasse to Phasse”.
3. Have a call to action: To refer once again to content marketing, if you want girls to swipe right you’re going to have to explain why they should. A line in the end simply saying something like “Swipe right for man who will make cook you the dinner of a lifetime” can make a huge difference psychologically.

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Get these elements right and you stand a good chance of talking to a lot of ladies on Tinder. So stop wasting your time reading this article (just kidding, please come back again) and start swiping till your thumbs are sore!